Eric Alyea
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Hows and whys of getting suckered.
I'm trying to do a reprint of advise Cyclon gave about the hows and whys of getting suckered.
here goes.
Cyclon
Sergeant Posts: 270
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Fort Myers FLORIDA
We all thought that. - 09-22-2009, 11:58 AM
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Originally Posted by Eric Alyea
The question I have to ask is how did you choose [that particular choice] in the 1st place? What was the draw or benifit, so I don't get caught like that?
I ask you Sir. What is the most common way people get drawn into a bad [particular choice]?
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Cyclon (posted)
I edited the [choice] item from the quote because it really is universal.
Short Answer: Fantasies
Progression:
1) We get attracted by something due to carrying around latent desires.
2) It captures our attention long enough so that we WANT to let our guard down.
3) We convince ourselves that the benefit outweighs the cost/risk.
4) We reason that the way the advertisement has made us feel about the product/service is how we will feel once we obtain it.
5) We negate ALL cautionary input from the pesky 'other' half of the brain.
6) In complimentary fashion we re-route everything that supports the fantasy into logical reasoning so that it appears to be coming from that pesky 'other' half of the brain. THEN we can believe it.
7) We succumb. Lord help us all.
You state that you are not a gambler and that, "You'd think I'd learn", but we really should all admit it and face facts that we are ALL gamblers and ONLY learn the hard way.
With an arrangement like I outlined above in which our own desires for benefit and advantage can and do thwart our own protection circuits, it is no small wonder how the cautious nature we want to think we have breaks down.
One alternative is to make all buying decisions by commitee which insures nothing will ever get accomplished (or a coup will occur and the decision will go the fantasy route anyway). In this FPA plays a valid role and a useful one too but of course this is sometimes compromised despite their excellent efforts to moderate. I am repeatedly asked about brokers and the phrase "the reviews are contradictory" echoes once again.
Another way is to simply sit it out and see how you feel another day.
I think that might be a tad flawed since it relies on the desires being lessened on some other day but it might help.
Discipline is the only way in my opinion but don't expect to be perfect.
You are human. Enjoy the gift and the journey.
Cheers,
Cyclon
I'm trying to do a reprint of advise Cyclon gave about the hows and whys of getting suckered.
here goes.
Cyclon
Sergeant Posts: 270
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Fort Myers FLORIDA
We all thought that. - 09-22-2009, 11:58 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Eric Alyea
The question I have to ask is how did you choose [that particular choice] in the 1st place? What was the draw or benifit, so I don't get caught like that?
I ask you Sir. What is the most common way people get drawn into a bad [particular choice]?
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Cyclon (posted)
I edited the [choice] item from the quote because it really is universal.
Short Answer: Fantasies
Progression:
1) We get attracted by something due to carrying around latent desires.
2) It captures our attention long enough so that we WANT to let our guard down.
3) We convince ourselves that the benefit outweighs the cost/risk.
4) We reason that the way the advertisement has made us feel about the product/service is how we will feel once we obtain it.
5) We negate ALL cautionary input from the pesky 'other' half of the brain.
6) In complimentary fashion we re-route everything that supports the fantasy into logical reasoning so that it appears to be coming from that pesky 'other' half of the brain. THEN we can believe it.
7) We succumb. Lord help us all.
You state that you are not a gambler and that, "You'd think I'd learn", but we really should all admit it and face facts that we are ALL gamblers and ONLY learn the hard way.
With an arrangement like I outlined above in which our own desires for benefit and advantage can and do thwart our own protection circuits, it is no small wonder how the cautious nature we want to think we have breaks down.
One alternative is to make all buying decisions by commitee which insures nothing will ever get accomplished (or a coup will occur and the decision will go the fantasy route anyway). In this FPA plays a valid role and a useful one too but of course this is sometimes compromised despite their excellent efforts to moderate. I am repeatedly asked about brokers and the phrase "the reviews are contradictory" echoes once again.
Another way is to simply sit it out and see how you feel another day.
I think that might be a tad flawed since it relies on the desires being lessened on some other day but it might help.
Discipline is the only way in my opinion but don't expect to be perfect.
You are human. Enjoy the gift and the journey.
Cheers,
Cyclon
